Wow Sass, you're an amazing person. I admire your wisdom, love and kindness that you've shown in the letter to your parents. Your forgiveness and maturity are inspiring. I hope I can display the same qualities in dealing with my own folks.
Hugs to you. I'm sure this isn't easy.
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It's judgment day with mum and dad
by sass_my_frass inwell, it's been brewing for a long time and i was getting ready for it, but i've finally gotten the shun-for-life from my folks.
i was going to visit them in a few months and had arranged to see my non-witness grandparents for a few days too, and invited them along.
here's there responese: (first from dad, then from mum)
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my sons wonderfull heart
by ajsmama inso last night i was crying in my room so bad that my 5 year old heard me, even though i was trying to be quiet.
he then started looking around the house for something shaped like a heart.
he found a little heart shaped pendant and started rubbing it on his chest, then he started rubbing it on mine.
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That's a wonderfully intuitive and empathetic little boy you've got there. Cherish him.
And I think you've got a great attitude regarding your current situation. In my experience it's better to be on your own than with someone who doesn't want to be with you (for whatever reason that is). Yes, he did you a favour. You have two beautiful children. You are blessed. Big hugs to you.
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Why can't I own a Canadian
by Caedes in.
http://www.humanistsofutah.org/2002/whycantiownacanadian_10-02.html
apologies if anyone has already posted this.
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Good points! Thanks for sharing that. Too funny.
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Thanking the Aposta-Academy!!! Post 2000......
by kid-A inas i enter the kingdom of the emperors here on jwd, i wanted to take the chance to thank some of you fine folks for some great times and great conversations!.
i know i'm gonna forget some of you so i apologize in advance!
first, to simon, for making the board such a great place.
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All hail Emperor Kid-A!!! Congrats to you! And thanks for the shout-out! :)
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Could You Forgive the Watchtower?
by Ms. Whip indid that question make you feel anger?
did you automatically say "no way, never?
i've been reading a little bit about what anger, resentment & bitterness does to our health.
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Thanks Ms. Whip for a great post.
I remember reading once that forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person. You forgive for yourself, to free yourself from the painful ties that bind you to the hurtful action of another. You forgive so you are no longer under the power of another.
In my experience, forgiveness is an intention, not necessarily a one-time choice. As we uncover more layers of our hurt there are more things that need forgiving. So it's an ongoing, unfolding process. It begins with the intention of forgiving and then our energy and resources flow towards that intention, freeing us from the anger, bitterness and resentment that can otherwise consume us.
I'm still learning this one. It's not easy. And I'm finding that the hardest person to forgive is myself.
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Hello!
by Legolas infirst i have to say.... omg dial up sucks!
well we are moved...thank god!..lol
our house at the moment looks like a tornado hit it though
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Welcome back! I missed you. Be sure to check in with Arwen or Damselfly because we're planning an East Coast Apostafest for when I come down to New Brunswick in mid-July and I'd love you to be there.
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Took my mom to lunch the other day...
by tall penguin inif you've read my previous posts you'll know that my relationship with my mom has had its ups and downs since i left the org.
while my parents (both jw) still speak to me, the relationship has been strained.
well, this past week i got up the courage to call her and invite her to lunch, something we haven't done since i da'd last august.
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Thanks for the replies. I feel that there's hope.
"do u have periods with her that she is hot and cold?"
Moreso at the beginning. My Mom is just gradually warming up now. I hope it will continue. I really don't deal well with flip-flopping. My folks live in the same building as one of their congregation elders and they've been courageous enough to be seen hugging me outside their building and getting into my car to go out. So I expect that this brave behavior will continue. Yet I know there's no guarantees when it comes to indoctrinated people. I'm learning to go with the flow and make decisions on a case by case basis.
My mom is still reticent to actually use "theocratic" phrases with me, lest she be found having "spiritual association" with me. It's kind of funny really. She'll talk about people at the hall but not about the meetings or the upcoming convention. She wants to go shopping, quite obviously for new convention clothes but won't say it's for that. She's cute to watch sometimes. I'm realizing she's just another human being with a lot of fears who wants some stability, even if it's a false sense of stability.
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Took my mom to lunch the other day...
by tall penguin inif you've read my previous posts you'll know that my relationship with my mom has had its ups and downs since i left the org.
while my parents (both jw) still speak to me, the relationship has been strained.
well, this past week i got up the courage to call her and invite her to lunch, something we haven't done since i da'd last august.
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If you've read my previous posts you'll know that my relationship with my mom has had its ups and downs since I left the org. While my parents (both jw) still speak to me, the relationship has been strained.
Well, this past week I got up the courage to call her and invite her to lunch, something we haven't done since I da'd last August. She said yes and off we went.
She actually treated me to lunch which was very kind. We chatted about everyday stuff then I mustered courage again and asked her about some of my friends from my old hall. I was waiting for her to shut me down and say that she couldn't talk about people in the congregation because I'm not a jw, but she didn't. She shared the latest about how people are doing. It was nice to hear how everyone is getting on.
She also told me about a friend's mom who died. This was a big thing because a few people have died since I left and she didn't tell me. I had to find out from my brother. So it was nice that she seems to be feeling more comfortable to tell me things.
We had a nice time and talked about going shopping in a few weeks. I'm taking it slow, so we can both get used to each other again. So far so good.
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My (censured) open letter to the Governing Body
by Khufu inhi everyone, below is a copy of my letter to the governing body that i had published on the internet in october 2004. i was threatened with disfellowshipping for that publication.
you may read the full story on my previous thread: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/115231/1.ashx
philip (khufu)
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Wow, great work Khufu! I'm so tempted to print this off and send it to my still jw parents. I wonder how they'd reply. Thank you for sharing this with us.
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How I discovered the true face of the Governing Body!
by Khufu ini live in brussels, belgium.
i became a witness at the age of 18. my parents were not quite happy.
my father forbade me to attend more than one meeting a week.
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Welcome Khufu! And thanks for that article on blood. Great work!
tall penguin